As stated above, don't get worked up if you have to relight a time or two. It's not a big deal with a pipe, as the flavors will be just as good after the relight. Pipes aren't like cigars in that respect.
Also, be patient. Many people don't get it just right their first few times. Pipes take some practice.
I'm a newb too and still learning a lot. The best thing I ever did was learn this method of pipe packing. It is brilliantly simple and works fantastic.
Plus I like hearing this guy talk.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XHYPso7TXs